Footprints on the road
Footprints in the sand
When I was younger,
it would suprise me whenever people told me I seemed like a very relaxed, even-tempered
person. It saddened me that the impression I somehow conveyed would often be so
different from my inner reality.
Truth is, just like
the old cartoon, I went through life carrying my own personal black cloud over
my head; a cloud made of anxiety and sadness, feeding on Beck’s famous trilogy:
“a negative outlook on one’s self, the
world and the future”.
I think it was this
that drew me, from an early age, to “personal development”, to call it somehow.
I guess the wiser and saner part of myself realized, on one hand, that my
situation at the time could by no means be called a “good life” and , on the
other, that I alone would be no match to the legacy of years of “less tan
functional” experiences, conditionings and interpretations.
As I’ve mentioned in
previous posts, I seeked counseling at a young age and a few years later, did a
BA and then an MA in Psychology. Both my studies and my experience being a
patient have enriched my life in many ways.
However, besides my
interest in Psychology and all its benefits, I was always curious about more
spiritual topics as well. Through the years, I have come in contact with
several and different traditions of thought, faith and spiritual practice. As a result of this constant search, I have
tailored a very personal spiritual practice, that has changed over time and
which I am sure will continue to evolve in the future.
Nowadays, when
someone tells me I appear to be laid-back, what I feel is joy, since the way I
still come across is now an accurate reflection of how I feel most of the time.
The black cloud has dissipated.
I obviously still
respond to the difficult situations that arise both in my life and around me;
I’d have to be a robot or a seriously self-centered person not to. Still, what
I have learned and practiced over the years allows me to feel great peace, even
in the midst of challenging situations and turbulent emotions.
So, where does this
sense of peace come from? I’d say it comes from having access to a point of
view that is radically different to the one we learn to have. To summarize it a
lot, from this perspective, I have absolutely nothing to prove, or gain, or
lose, because: 1. everything is won in the first place, and 2. the person supposed
to prove, gain or lose something, does not really exist, or rather, she does
exist, but as an indivisible part of something much, much bigger.
Now, I want to make clear
WHAT THIS IS NOT. It is not
brainwashing, it’s not something I BELIEVE in, and it is not a limited and
superficial attitude towards life, very fashionable in certain circles by the
way, according to which “everything is perfect and anything is posible”. Rather
it is what I have EXPERIENCED. It’s what mystics have been talking and writing
about for centuries. It’s the core of all religions, the Pearl hidden
(sometimes almost buried) under layers of rituals, lifestyles, inaccurate interpretations and attemps at
manipulation.
In my personal
experience, the psychological approach has proved very useful. It helps me
widen the way I understand both life at large and my personal circumstances. It
has also provided me with tools to daily manage the elements of my personality
that I consider to be my “Achilles heel”.
On the other hand, my
spiritual take on life is what completes the picture. It is what gives me a
much comprehensive perspective; what allows me to relativize and give new
meaning to everything I experience, including my positive qualities and
shortcomings. I am so glad I don’t have to choose between these two standpoints,
as I find they not only complement each other, but they actually merge together
at times.
If you are reading
this, it is highly possible that you are on a quest yourself.
If this is the case,
I would like to say three things to you. To me they are the most important
things I’ve learned along my own path.
Number 1: You are closer than anyone else to your own essence
Access to
the deepest and most authentic part of your being does not depend on your dedicating
a lot of time and effort to the study and practice of a specific religion, philosophy
or lifestyle. It is not the prize at the end of the road. I don’t mean to say that these things can’t
be useful, but don’t ever forget that the reality that underlies everything is
wider and more mysterious than any worldview, and therefore, nothing can hold
it in its entirety. I once read an article in which a Buddhist teacher said
something along the lines of: “Even the best of paths has to be left behind at
some point”. Access to your essence should not be too complicated, exactly
because it is your essence. Beware not to be too distracted by the appeal and
promises of theologies or other systems of thought. Don’t let them “explain”
your essence to you, because you are closer to it than they are.
Number 2: Always follow your intuition.
The spiritual search is a process and your deep wisdom
knows what it is that you need at any given moment. No matter how renowned a
teacher, a method or a book may be, if they do not resonate with you, it means
they are not the right way for you to keep on delving into your journey of discovery. When you find
something that you really need, you will naturally want to explore this option,
even if it might at times seem challenging or out of your comfort zone. Be
confident that you are not groping in the dark, but rather, that something
inside you is guiding you on the right direction.
Number three: Never give up.
“Dark nights of the soul” are
real, and in a world like ours, where the most terrible kinds of suffering,
cruelty, injustice and lack of meaning are all too real as well, the quest for
absolute good and love can seem like a fool’s endeavor. Some time ago, I read
an anonymous post on Facebook that said there are two mistakes we can make when
it comes to undertaking a spiritual search: either never getting started or
quitting prematurely. On my own path, especially during times of doubt and
exhaustion, there were always people showing me the way; proving that I was not
lost and that I was not crazy for insisting on going forward. To me, their
presence was like footprints on the road, showing me someone had tread that path
before me. I sincerely hope I can be that same sort of presence for you. So, if
you’re already on your way, don’t ever give up.
There’s a verse in the
Bible that speaks of “the peace that transcends all understanding”. My personal
experience has been that, even if there may never be an answer to some of my
questions, even if I never understand how there can be so much evil in this
world, I do feel peace. Not only do I feel it, but I also know it is the
essence of everything that exists. It is this peace that gives me the certainty that there is nothing
to be lost, or won. Even if I die, I won’t lose. How could I not be relaxed and
joyful, knowing this? Not believing it, not hoping it, but knowing it.
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Pic credits:
1. Aleksandr Ledogorov on Unsplash
2. Joseph Barrientos on Unsplash
3. Tyler Milligan on Unsplash
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